When I had my first drink at the age of 16, I didn’t know that I would become gravely addicted to the substance I was experimenting with. But I had received warnings, including the following advice from my mother to discourage my nail-biting habit: “People with oral fixations become alcoholics. Don’t drink.” But other than […]
A Fatal & Progressive Disease: “Why Don’t You Just Stop”
If you were faced with a fatal and progressive disease, you’d likely do everything in your power to rid yourself of it. Humans are wired to go to great lengths to avoid death, and I imagine you would, too. You’d follow your doctor’s orders, take medications, try experimental treatments, explore holistic remedies, change your diet, […]
Springtime Sobriety: Navigating Warm Weather Temptations
We did it! Winter is over and just like that, it’s the first day of Spring. The days are longer, the weather is warming up and soon enough, the tulips will be blooming. However, for many people in early recovery, the change of seasons can bring about some challenges. After being shut in by the […]
Shamrocks and Sobriety: A Sober Alcoholic Reflects on St. Patrick’s Day
Parades, corned beef, shamrocks, and wearing green are just a few ways people celebrate Ireland’s foremost patron saint, St. Patrick every year on March 17th. But the 40 shades of green and Irish dinner aside, most people mark this holiday with drinking — a lot of drinking. And that’s probably because this holiday is associated […]
A Year of Sober Firsts: Triumphs, Struggles, and Small Victories
The first year of sobriety is tough—no joke. In the early days of my recovery, after my alcohol withdrawal symptoms subsided and my “pink cloud” completely evaporated, I felt emptier than ever. Whether I wanted to admit it or not, a huge part of my adult life had revolved around alcohol. And suddenly, I couldn’t […]
How to Survive the Deep Freeze — Without Alcohol
I hate winter. Especially once January hits, and we’ve got three long months ahead and nothing but freezing forecasts and deceptive wind chills. I get blue. Really blue. Like a lot of us do: Seasonal Affective Disorder is in the DSM and while I may suffer from a touch of it, I think most of […]
All Aboard! We’re Navigating the Recovery Bermuda Triangle
The holidays. They say it’s a joyous time for family, feasts, and festive cheer. But, if you’re in recovery, it can be a time for navigating the treacherous waters of the “Holiday Bermuda Triangle.” The Bermuda Triangle, a term coined in the rooms of AA, consists of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s. Three back-to-back points […]
Why Am I So Tired? The Hard Truth About Fatigue in Early Sobriety
Fatigue in early recovery is real and I forgot how absolutely drained I felt all the time till my friend complained of exhaustion when she was counting days. For anyone beginning the journey of sobriety, physical and mental fatigue can feel overwhelming and unmanageable. You’ve taken an incredible first step by choosing recovery, but early […]
The Myth of Moderation for Problem Drinkers
When I realized that I had a drinking problem, I immediately told myself I would moderate how much I drank. If I could just control my drinking, then I wouldn’t have to give it up. I told myself I would only drink on weekends, I would only go out for one beer after work, I […]
Sober October: 31 Days of Clear Minds and Bad Dance Moves
Ah, Sober October—the one month of the year when you actually remember your weekend plans, don’t “accidentally” text your ex, and wake up feeling like a functioning adult instead of a bag of shit. Sound too good to be true? Well, Sober October is here to save you from the clutches of bottomless brunches, questionable […]
Pumpkin Spice and Staying Sober in the Fall
Can you feel that slight hint of fall in the air? I sure can. Autumn weather always brings a sense of nostalgia, and after the dog days of summer, that brisk breeze is a welcome change. However, the change of season can also trigger substance use urges, with spring and fall being particularly challenging for […]